The Road to You

T.B.R.I. Trust-based relational intervention.

I am not getting it all right. I’m not the perfect parent, as those don’t exist. Thanks to the afore linked training, I do feel I am empowered and equipped to be the parent God would want me to be for the kids He has chosen to allow me to parent.

The T.B.R.I. training was at first a “requirement” in order for me to be an adoptive parent. Now it is a personal yearly refresher course that I aim to require of myself. I always learn something. I walk away with a new hope, a new energy, and a renewed commitment to be the parent my children need and I the parent I desire to be.

I could say so much more. If you have the means to take this course I highly recommend it. I don’t think any of us want to be bad at parenting. No one likes to go to bed feeling like they failed, or let their kids down. Though I’m sure all parent’s feel like that at times. This course will give you the tools to go back to your kids when you do make a mistake, and make things right. It will also equip you to be proactive not reactive.

I don’t know about you all, but the only training I received on how to be a parent was by watching my parent’s parent me. Some of the ways they parented me I knew I wanted to replicate, other ways I thought maybe I would do a little differently. Then I became a parent and wow it’s certainly easy to turn into your parent (good or bad.) My parent’s did the best they could with what they knew, I’m not saying they didn’t. There are so many things they did right. I wouldn’t be who I am without their guidance and investment in me. Maybe you are like me and want to take some things with you and leave some things behind. Or maybe you know that you don’t want to parent the way you were parented, but you also don’t know another way. T.B.R.I. is the way. It just works. It’s not based on threats, or fear. It’s also not easy. You can’t sit on your couch and turn out amazing kids (although I sure wish I could.) This way of parenting is very relational. Your kids will know the rules, and also feel safe to make mistakes not because a mistake won’t be addressed (it will be) but because they will be taught we all make mistakes and there’s a path back from “mistakeville.” We all need practice to make the right choices. We all need to be forgiven when mistakes are made. We all need people that are in love with us on our worst days not just our best days. And as parents we need to know how to parent when our kids are mouthy or we are mouthy.

We are all more than our biggest mistakes….bad behaviors aren’t from bad kids. Bad behavior is a signal we have a kid with needs that aren’t being met….and they have found a way to get their needs met through behavior whether it be good or bad….if this is confusing..message me…or even better take the course! You’ll understand..and you won’t be made to feel guilty for the past. You will instead be handed tools and hope for the journey…isn’t that what we all want?

This training will help in all your relationships.

I’m now trying to get my son’s school to use this to educate and equip their teachers. Once you have the tools, and you see them work, you will want to share it with everyone.